January 31, 2012

Premarital Financial Counseling: Do People choose their Spouse because of Money?

By admin in Money Before Marriage Lesson

Let's kick off the last couple of days with this premarital financial counseling question which almost sound like it came from our daughter, "Do people choose their spouse because of money"? Answer: There are some people that choose their spouse because of money and let me share with you the challenges that will pose at a later date. (1) What happens if all of a sudden that person loses the money due to investments declining or a job loss. Would the spouse who married for money pack their bags and leave? "No money, No honey"! Or will they have grown to love their spouse and be able to stick around? You decide! (2) Did that person have their act together and had money as well or did they see their spouse as their only source of money? Then once the spouse's income diminished they found themselves lost in the relationship and their identity. Let's face it some people do lose themselves in their spouse and become that person's wife or husband. Caution: I will just put it out there that's usually the wives that lose themselves. Ladies you can still have your own identity and goals within your marriage. That's not a bad thing. (3) Were you pressured to marry this person by parents because they knew you future spouse could take care of you, yet this is not the person you love? Brides and Grooms do not fall into this parent trap just to please your parents when deep down you are miserable. You think it's good to marry them because of money, wait until the marriage doesn't work and it costs you more to divorce! RED FLAG! Those three reasons are more that enough for you not to choose your spouse based on money. Do not fall into any of those reasons above because the relationship will have a hard time being sustained if you do.

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