January 13, 2012

Premarital Financial Counseling: What can a wife (future) do differently to impact her groom?

By admin in Money Before Marriage Lesson

Premarital Financial Counseling question part 2: What can a wife (Future) do differently to impact her groom when it comes to her making more money? Understand that this will not impact all grooms or husbands. However, there is a segment of men where the message of their being the provider has been so ingrained that it will take some time for them to readjust their thinking about money and marriage. There's NOTHING, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong with wives helping their husbands when it comes to their home and ensuring bills get paid, preparing for parenting and even retirement down the road. There are several things a wife (future) can do differently to impact her husband (groom) when it comes to her making money: (1) Have an open and honest communication about the finances if you haven't already. Discuss what are the mutual financial goals they'd like to see accomplished? Maybe they will accomplish some of them faster. (2) They could decide to run the household on one income and utilize the second income to pay off bills faster, start that emergency plan or even take that much needed family vacation. (3) She can ask her husband what is a financial goal that he has for himself. If he is in a job that is not promotable maybe he wants to start a part-time business on the side. She could help with that. (4) The WORDS she speaks out of her mouth to her husband will impact him greatly. She should be encouraging him and giving him THANKS for what HE brings to the marriage and household. Praising him and appreciating him will go a long way. Think about how you feel when someone pats you on the back. Brides and grooms you need to remember to treat each other the way you want to be treated. This person is supposed to be your best friend - you can talk, laugh, cry, and all kinds of things together. Do not let your "thoughts and behavior" around money change who you are as an individual and how you treat the one you love.

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