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Money and Marriage Empowerment 101
January 20, 2012
Premarital financial counseling can provide guidance whether you are engaged or in a committed relationship that could eventually lead to marriage. Money is not a topic that should be avoided. There are several ways you could begin this discussion: (1) If you are mature enough to bring up the subject because you want to see what the other person thinks about money, then the next time you are on a date bring it up. The beginning of this conversation does need to start in person and not via the telephone. You need to be able to watch body language and expressions. You want to assess the comfort level or discomfort level and if they would prefer to "skirt" around the issue and avoid certain items. (2) You could always look for an opening into the money conversation. An opening would be if the person you are dating is voicing some concern about a financial issue he or she may be dealing with. Then you could piggy back on the topic and say, since you mentioned money, how do you feel about a person that may not be paying all their bills on time or what if someone has incurred a lot of medical bills? This way it is not as if the discussion came "out of the blue" it was something that they started and you CHOSE to dig a little deeper. (3) When the check comes for the bill, you could always even ask the question how do you feel about men always paying the bill or should a woman pay sometimes as well? Let me caution you this will definitely get the conversation rolling for quite some time. Do not ask any question you are not ready to hear the answer. Granted you don't just begin asking everyone about their finances. Yet you want to take the time and ensure you are talking with someone you know you're in a committed relationship with about finances. Money plays many roles in life when you are single and/or married. It is to your advantage to know how to talk about money as well as manage money.