January 22, 2012

Premarital Financial Counseling: What to do when he or she doesn’t listen?

By admin in Money Before Marriage Lesson

This week's post will be focusing on the parents of brides and grooms from varying angles which could shed a lot of light when it comes to premarital financial counseling. This is one that I get often when I'm at bridal shows. Dr. Taffy the bride (my sister or daughter) is not listening to me when it comes to money and the wedding. She is overspending on everything. I tried to tell her but she will not listen to me. What do I do? Response: It is hard to watch your loved one make financial choices that you know will cause her heartache down the road. Is there someone in the family that she will listen to? Have you tried to talk with this person and see what their observations have been and what they think about the situation? If your loved one will not listen to them, then it it time for you to consider an outside person. There are times when it is easier to listen to a stranger than a loved one. You are soo close to the situation that they think you are being biased, some may think you are even jealous of their relationship and just don't want to see them happy. I know that thinking is far from the truth. What you must remember is they are dealing with a lot of emotions due to their engagement and wedding planning as well as there could be a lot of other people also saying you should do this and you should do that. When it comes to your purchasing a wedding gift for them, maybe you should give an unconventional gift and give them some hours of counseling. Yes, they will need it from the sounds of what has been shared and your gift can help them throughout their marriage instead of it being a microwave, blender or book of recipes.

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