Bride sends a Message to Groom
As I was thinking back about some of the engaged couples that came to me for premarital financial counseling, I thought about why they came! Today I am writing about this to let brides and grooms know that actions you take even during your engagement can send a message or messages to each other.
Bride #1: Contacted me after she was searching for premarital financial counseling. She wrote me to ask a couple of questions. After we got pass the preliminary questions and recommendations – we moved forward with them becoming a client. When I spoke with her and her fiance by phone it seemed apparent that this was her idea to enter into premarital financial counseling because they wanted to start off on the right foot. I assured her fiance’ that he should feel good about his choice for a wife because she was thinking big picture and wanted to ensure their marriage would succeed. One of the areas she wanted them to have guidance in was finance. He was very thankful. I also complimented the bride on being mature and wanting to get instruction on this “taboo” topic.
When it came to money like many wanting help in setting financial goals, money management and planning long term. During our first session, this couple learned right away there were some things when it came to finances that they did not know about each other. Therefore, as we talked and I asked questions it provided an opportunity for them to have even more discussion after the session was over with the assigned homework. From the time our phone call ended until the next week when we talked again – emails were exchanged with questions and answers, as well as reporting of what happened with some of the homework.
Bride and Groom #1 – were very grateful for each instruction and how it opened up their lines of communication even more than before. This gave them the foundation and tools to continue having financial talks as they plan their marriage. Notice I didn’t say wedding.
Brides – what do you want your husband to know about you and your financial skills? Do you want him to know or just think you can handle the marital finances? Weigh in and stay tuned as I share about the messages brides and grooms can share when it comes to money based on their actions!
Premarital Financial Counseling whether in Louisiana or another state, should be required. Within the marriage industry it is known that premarital counseling reduces the risk of divorce by 30%. Can you imagine how that number would increase if it included finances! Finances is one of the top reasons for divorce; yet many couples are not [...]Read more
Premarital Financial Counseling: Should a person whose not married provide Premarital Financial Counseling?
This premarital financial counseling question came in behind the scenes and I couldn’t wait to address it. Question is: “Should a person who is not married provide premarital financial counseling”? There’s several factors that must be looked at: (1) Has the person been married before? If so and they are no longer married, what is [...]Read more